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Oct 20, 2020Liked by Padmini Pyapali

So you're saying that by rephrasing what people say back to them, you show that you understand, they feel heard, and you reduce miscommunication?

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Oct 20, 2020Liked by Padmini Pyapali

Hey great idea!

It seems to me that some people try that, like Asperger with coping mechanisms, as they can't read social hints, and try to get it right from others.

Many times I tried this very technique people seem strange, as I'm trying to go too deep to their communication. Other times seems like I'm insecure or simply "strange"...

Finally but not least, it seems to save time in the long run, but in short conversations it can be very exhausting to paraphrase things...

Nice article anyway.

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Oct 20, 2020Liked by Padmini Pyapali

Great read!

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Oct 19, 2020Liked by Padmini Pyapali

I had thought all this while that there are only 5 communication stances; I learnt the 6th one, ‘paraphrasing communication stance’.

PS: must be wondering how I got to read your post. ‘Your dear dad forwarded this to me and I read it with interest!’ (Reasonably paraphrased?)

PPS: I hope you are safe and well! ..? (The ? should make it perfectly paraphrased ...I guess)

Cheers (100% paraphrased; it cannot be said any other way).

-Raghav

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Do you have suggestions for this technique over email?

I've used this technique, but 90% of the time it tends to kill the conversation in an email thread, and I'm never certain how to reiterate to try and remind the recipient that I need their response/clarification to proceed without simply responding with "any thoughts?", or "did you get a chance to think about this?" Which seems to be construed as rude.

[Remote work related, in person conversations not possible, limited virtual meeting options.]

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